Embrace Uncertainty

I woke up today with a moment of clarity and profound thought about the word “MINE”. 

It reminded me of those annoying seagulls on Finding Nemo—

“mine, mine, mine, mine”.

This is straight from my journal on 01/17/24—unedited and unfiltered. See the photo below.

I’m sharing this right up front because this mindset?
It will shape your entire dating journey—whether you realize it or not.

I woke up today with a moment of clarity and a profound thought about the word “MINE”. It reminded me of those annoying seagulls on Finding Nemo… “mine, mine, mine, mine”.

Nothing in this world belongs to you. You only have power over yourself, control over YOUR thoughts, actions, and emotions. The CHOICE to keep your power OR to give someone else power over you. Especially in regards to relationships.

We are so hung up on certainty and it’s a “sure thing” or HE IS MINE.  While what we need to do is embrace uncertainty because that is the only sure thing in this life.  People grow and change, life happens. When we try to latch on and claim someone as “our forever” it damages both of us.  They feel choked and controlled and that they have no freedom. We become anxious and watching, searching, to see if they will cheat on us – are they true.

I had a new understanding this morning of the popular quote: “If you love something, set it free.  If it comes back to you, it is yours.  If it doesn’t, it never was”. We have always thought about this as the ENDING. When it’s too hard and our needs aren’t being met, so we break up and “let them go” in hopes they will see how wonderful we are and come running back to us.

But what if instead, we view this as the BEGINNING?

Let them go – let them be who they are going to be. Don’t try to control, manipulate, or create them in your mind to be something they are not.

Let them go – Don’t choke the life out of them wondering what they are doing or if they will cheat.

Let them go – Do not chase or text to “remind them” you are here waiting.

Let them go – To hang themselves - if they so choose - and to show their true character.

OR

Let them go – so they can CHOOSE to be with you. Choose to share their life with you. Choose to show their worth and level of care towards you.

Because do you really want something you have to cage up and control? Or do you want to release the tension and stress, allow the freedom to BREATHE, embrace the uncertainty in life and choose to RECEIVE?

You ARE in control of that.

💖 – Melody